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21 Remote Control Vibrators You Can Use Near or Far

The ideal toy for long-distance couples.

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Sex toys are always welcome additions to the bedroom, but sometimes they're not the easiest to control in the moment, which is where the best remote control vibrators come in. No more fumbling with buttons, flipping through vibration patterns and speeds, without being able to see what you're doing (when you're really just trying to focus and stay in the mood).

Remote-controlled vibrators have been on the market for a long time, but the technology just keeps getting better. Now many toys are Bluetooth-enabled, with Wi-Fi connectivity, and can be controlled remotely through an app on your phone no matter what time zone and location you and your partner find yourselves—making remote control toys a game changer for long-distance sex.

Others still can be used within a short range of a separate wireless remote, and even worn in your underwear, so they can add an element of intrigue to sex with your partner who's the next room. Even for people living their best single life and just looking to ramp up solo play, remote control toys can make masturbation easier. Want to change the vibration speed? All you need is a simple tap on your phone screen or smart watch to dial up the intensity.

Intrigued? Below, we've gathered 21 of the best remote control vibrators and sex toys available, according to experts.

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G-Spot Vibrators: We-Vibe Chorus

We-Vibe is undoubtedly one of the top players in the remote control sex toys game. Experts wholeheartedly recommended four different We-Vibe toys, with their top pick being the We-Vibe Chorus seen here. "In the years I've been at Babeland, I've seen a lot of iterations of We-Vibe's signature C-shaped wearable vibrator," Lisa Finn, sex educator and brand manager at Babeland, says, "but this one definitely is their best, with an even more adjustable design to contour more specifically to the wearer, an even smoother motor, and a remote that has a squeeze function, meaning the harder you grip the base of the remote, the more intense the vibration."

The C-shape allows for both internal G-spot stimulation and external clitoral stimulation, as the toy is designed to slip inside a vagina, hug the vaginal walls, and sit on top of the clitoris. You can wear it by itself, or use it in combination with penetrative sex.
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G-Spot Vibrators: The We-Vibe Unite

We-Vibe's Unite is similar to the Chorus in that it's a C-shaped vibrator meant for both internal and external stimulation, but is a little less powerful and works with a remote exclusively (instead of the We-Connect app). "If someone wears it during intercourse, the penis can feel the buzz too," says Carol Queen, Ph.D., staff sexologist for Good Vibrations. The Unite is a great option for someone who wants the awesome benefit of a hands-free vibrator that can be worn during penetrative sex but doesn't like too intense of a vibration.
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G-Spot Vibrators: Lovense Nora Rabbit

Lovense's Nora and Max 2 are both great on their own, but they're particularly cool when used together. Nora is a rabbit-style vibrator that can be controlled remotely through an app, and Max 2 is a masturbation sleeve (otherwise known as a stroker) that can also be controlled through the app. But the really cool thing about these two is how they interact with each other.

"There's bidirectional control," says sex therapist Megan Fleming. That means that moving one toy impacts the movement of the other when they're both connected through the app. Couples can also use a video feature on the app to see each other while using their toys.

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G-Spot Vibrators: The Fuse

The Fuse is "like a rabbit vibe without the bunny shape," Queen says. What makes this G-spot vibrator interesting is that it connects to Kiiroo, an interactive app that syncs up with toys to make it easier to have virtual sex with your partner (so it's especially great for people in long-distance relationships). In a nutshell, Fuse can interact with any other toy that's also connected to Kiiroo, which can interface with webcam sites too, so if you and a partner both have a Kiiroo-connected toy on hand, "either of you can control them," Queen says. "The Kiiroo toy lets each partner feel sensation."
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G-Spot Vibrators: Lovense Lush 2

The Lovense Lush 2 toy is a favorite among sex-cam performers, says sex therapist Shadeen Francis, LMFT. It's an internal vibrator designed to sit inside a vagina with an external arm for easy removal. "It can be controlled from anywhere in the world, the curved head nestles comfortably against the sensitive tissues of the G-spot, and the vibrations range from a gentle rumble to a pulsing earthquake," Francis adds. Since it has no limit on how far away the person controlling the vibrator can be—it's also a great couple's vibrator for those times when your partner is out of town, but you still want to play.
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G-Spot Vibrators: OhMiBod Esca 2

The Esca 2 is another Kiiroo-compatible, Bluetooth-enabled toy that's "designed for G-spot fun," Queen says. "And it has many bells and whistles." One of those bells and whistles is the ability to use an Apple Watch or iPhone as a remote, while others include a "club mode" that allows you to sync your vibrations up to music or ambient sound. The Esca is also very soft and flexible for curving internally to fit your body, and has three intensity levels and two vibration modes to choose from.

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G-Spot Vibrators: Lovehoney Love Egg

This egg vibrator can go inside a vagina for internal G-spot stimulation. Flip through eight vibration modes and 12 speeds, all controlled by a simple, three-button remote. This toy is also whisper-quiet, which Fleming says makes it a good toy to wear out and about if you're into sneaky semipublic play. "There's nothing like having your partner in eyesight, while controlling their level of pleasure," she says. Just make sure you're within about 25 feet, or the remote will fall out of range.
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G-Spot Vibrators: The Wristband Remote Curve Bullet

This toy has a fairly new type of controller that straps to your wrist and "looks very much like a fitness tracker," Queen says. Like the Lovehoney vibrating egg, the Curve Bullet Vibrator is designed to fit inside a vagina. It's covered in silicone, with a retrieval string "in case you wanted to run around wearing it, keeping hands-free to do other delicious stuff, or for venturing out of the house for some crypto-public play," Queen says.
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G-Spot Vibrators: Fifty Shades of Grey Relentless Vibrations Remote Couples Vibrator

Sex experts have previously recommended this Fifty Shades toy as a high-quality vibrator that can be used externally or internally, since its insertable, flexible arms bend to fit in whatever position you choose. It can also be combined with other toys to add to the fun.

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G-Spot Vibrators: The Cowgirl Sex Machine

The Cowgirl is definitely not for beginners or the casual sex-toy user. For one, there's the price tag (you're looking at more than $1,000 for one of these). But it's also a high-powered, literal sex machine, "which means it's pretty different from your average sex toy," sex educator Cassandra Corrado says.

The Cowgirl has a big base with interchangeable attachments, so you can sit on a dildo hands-free, as if you were on top during penetrative sex. You can then maneuver the machine via an attached remote control or through a smartphone app. Queen also recommends it as a sex machine with a ton of perks, including six vibrating patterns and a 360 swivel rotation.
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Panty Vibrators: We-Vibe Moxie

We-Vibe's Moxie vibrator was another popular toy among the sex educators we spoke with. Moxie is a rechargeable panty vibrator that slips into any pair of underwear you own ("so no need to worry about a panty that will cramp your style"), says Sam, the cofounder of NYC sex shop Shag.

For people with vulvas, it's designed to massage your clitoris while you're about and about. But the Moxie's magnetic attachment also "makes it more inclusive for bodies of different shapes, sizes, genders, and orientations," says Francis. Like all of We-Vibe's toys, the Moxie can connect to the We-Connect app, which allows you to customize the intensity and pattern of vibrations via your phone.
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Panty Vibrators: OhMiBod Club Vibe

These vibrating panties from OhMiBod have a special superpower. They "can vibrate to the beat of the music—in your bedroom, at the club—or to your lover's voice!" Queen says. The Club Vibe comes with a black lace thong and has three modes of operation that you can toggle between so long as you stay within the remote's 20-foot radius: Tease (which lets you manually control the vibration), Groove (which lets you choose between five programmed pulsation settings), and Club (which picks up on ambient sound to control the vibration).

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Cock Rings: Satisfyer Powerful One C-Ring

C-rings (otherwise known as cock rings) can be tons of fun for two (or more) partners, whether you're using them on a penis or a strap-on. Satisfyer's Powerful One C-Ring has the bonus of being controlled by a free app. "With fully customizable vibration patterns and control from anywhere in the world, this C-ring is a great toy for both partners," Sam says. Worn over the testicles and the shaft, Sam explains that these rings trap bloodflow, causing the wearer to become more engorged and have more intense orgasms.
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Cock Rings: We-Vibe Verge Penis Ring

Francis prefers We-Vibe's version of a vibrating cock ring. "I'm biased because I love a good accessory, but I think rings are a versatile addition to sex play," she says. She suggests using the ring on a penis or dildo, during both partnered and solo play, and looping the ring around your fingers while giving a hand job or fingering someone. The ability to control the ring using the We-Connect app is just an added bonus.
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Cock Rings: The Happy Rabbit Remote Control Ring

The Happy Rabbit Cock Ring combines two of the best sex toys in one, adding a cute rabbit head to a typical cock ring. The rabbit works similarly to a typical rabbit vibrator, except in this case the penis or dildo it's attached to is also attached to your partner. Although the remote for the Happy Rabbit has only a 10- to 15-foot radius, "if you're near a dildo or penis wearing this ring and you're holding the remote, you probably don't want to get too far away," Queen says.

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Masturbation Sleeves: Alex Neo by Svakom

The Alex Neo is considered a "male masturbator" (otherwise known as a "thruster"), i.e., for someone who has a penis. It "has a soft, supple silicone interior that is long and flexible enough to accommodate penises of all shapes and sizes," Francis says. She believes that the major selling point of this massager is that it has multiple means of control. "The speed of the strokes can be controlled on the toy itself, by the dedicated app, or can be paired to interactive websites that sync the thrusts to the activity in the video!"
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Masturbation Sleeves: Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo

The Pulse Duo is similar to a thruster, but has a more open design, making it possible to use this toy during penetrative sex. The toy wraps around a penis or dildo and is a great option for folks who have difficulties with erections, Corrado says, because "you can use it without getting hard." Instead of the more typical motor, the Pulse Duo uses oscillation to "create an intense sensation for the wearer," Corrado explains. It's controlled via a small remote.
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Masturbation Sleeves: Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Lux Stimulator

Here's another high-quality toy from Hot Octopuss that uses a wristband remote. Kind of like the Hot Octopuss stroker, the Pulse Solo Lux wraps around a penis "regardless of whether it's erect," Queen says, and vibrates "from mild to turbo." You can control the toy via buttons on the side or with the wristband remote.

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Anal Toys: B-Vibe Novice Plug

"If you're curious, but excited about anal play, the Novice Plug is a great place to start," Corrado says. The Novice is a small, vibrating butt plug that's controlled via a separate wireless remote control. "The anus is full of sensitive nerve endings, and vibrations can feel pleasant in this area for many people," Corrado adds. The Novice is meant for...well, novices. That means it's small enough to be a "comfy upgrade from fingers or external anal stimulation" for first-timers, she says. Just remember to use any anal toys like this one with plenty of lube.
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Anal Toys: Cinco Vibrating Anal Beads

"Butts like to have fun too," Queen says. One way to give your butt a good time is with Cinco's vibrating anal beads. Easy to clean, these silicone-covered beads are a great starter anal toy. "Just take it one bead at a time," Queen says, and remember to use lube with this. Use the remote control it comes with from up to 30 feet away to cycle through six vibration speeds and 15 patterns.
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Anal Toys: The Lumen Anal Plug by OhMiBod

And if you're looking for another Kiiroo-compatible with Wi-Fi connectivity, Queen also recommends the Lumen Anal Plug. This butt plug has the same music mode as the Club Vibe above via OhMiBod's remote app, but can also connect with other toys via the Kiiroo app, so you and your partner(s) can sync on the same vibrations. "It's one very versatile anal plug," Queen says.

Kasandra Brabaw is a health and sex journalist living in Brooklyn. Her work has been features at Health, SELF, Refinery29, Prevention, and Space.com.

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